I am going to take a moment and share a story about my life. Recently I began working as a preschool teacher in Blackhawk California. It all started when a friend Lara who I worked with in the dental field 15 years ago ran into me at Costco. She went on and on about how much she loved her job working with kids. I was intrigued by our conversation and reached out to her on Facebook. We connected and I messaged her and asked if her place of employment Tassajara Learning Center was hiring. Lara gave me her bosses contact information and I reached out and inquired about a teaching position.
Here’s a little back history on me that most of you might now know. I’m a kid lover. I’ve always adored kids. I had my first child at the age of 20 after getting married at age 18. I fell in love with a gorgeous man in the US Marine Corps and we eloped after only knowing one another for 6 months. This marriage ended after Eric left me when I was 7 ½ months pregnant. My mother told him to “take care of me and don’t ask for her help, or leave and never see us again.” That night my husband left.
Eric and I at a photo session in San Francisco in 1983
Eric and I had a tumultuous relationship with Eric being jealous, controlling and manipulative. He never hit me, but was mentally abusive to me. Luckily, I was able to live with my mom and she cared for me until Curtis was born. He was 2 ½ weeks overdue and born on January 20 1985 on Super Bowl Sunday almost 31 years ago. A fireman named Mark Thomas delivered him in my bedroom since I never made it to the hospital on time. My mom’s car wasn’t working and Kaiser wouldn’t send an ambulance. I was allowed to live at home until Curtis was 3 months old.
Curtis’s first picture at 2 days old
At that point, I found a job as an Au pair and worked for a wonderful woman named Diane. Diane had a son named Joel who was 4 and she needed care in the evenings while she worked. Curtis and I lived with them for 2 years and I was able to go to school, work at Longs Drugs part time and help Diane run her home. I learned how to cook, clean, iron, paint fences, garden, and of course care for Joel and Curtis in between. I loved taking care of these boys. We had a ball together.
Curtis holding Andrew in Dec 1992
I was fortunate enough to meet my next love at Longs Drugs. Ken was putting himself through UC Berkeley, working 35 hours a week and taking care of his sick father. I married this sexy man that has the most generous heart 2 ½ years later in June of 1989. Ken adopted Curtis two years later, and we had another son Andrew in 1992.
Ken pushing Curtis in a stroller at the zoo
Here is a pic of me and Curtis when I was a single parent in Nov 1987
Ken and Curtis on Father’s Day
I’m the luckiest girl on earth to have my boys and a loving husband. I am grateful every day for the opportunity to work at a beautiful preschool like Tassajara learning Center and I look forward to teaching my new kids a few things before they begin kindergarten. I’m especially happy that I ran into my friend Lara and for my families’ encouragement as I step into this new career.
Here’s a recipe that I think you’ll like. These Honey Bran Muffins are moist and perfect served with a hot cup of freshly brewed coffee or hot tea. I hope you make them for your family and spoil them like I spoil mine.
Honey Bran Muffins Baked w Fig Jam
2 C All purpose flour
2 t baking soda
1 ½ t salt
1 ½ C wheat bran
½ C Fiber One Cereal (crushed)
½ C Unsalted Butter (1 stick), room temperature
1 C sugar
½ C honey
2 large eggs
¾ C fig preserves
1 t vanilla bean paste (or vanilla extract)
2 C buttermilk (or use Milk and add 1 T apple cider vinegar)
½ C diced dried plums
1 C raisins
¼ C Demerara Raw Sugar to sprinkle over muffins before baking
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Line 24 muffin cups w paper liners. Stir flour, wheat bran, Fiber One Cereal, baking soda, and salt in a small bowl and blend.
Beat butter and sugar in a large bowl until creamy. Add honey, then eggs one at a time. Add fig jam and vanilla and mix well. Beat in buttermilk alternately w flour mixture until combined. Stir in dried plums and raisins and scoop into muffin cups.
Sprinkle Demerara sugar over muffins and bake for about 20 minutes until a tooth pick comes clean when testing. Take out of muffin cups and cool on a rack.
Feel free to leave comments or ask any questions.
January 17, 2016 at 10:20 pm
I love your story!! You have made a beautiful life for you and your family. Great things do happen for those great people who wait. Like my Dad always said “when one door closes another will open”! Thank you for sharing your Amazing Journey. I’m happy I have you as my friend!!!
January 19, 2016 at 5:26 am
Thank you Lori. We go way back, yet I hardly got a chance to know you over the years. Let’s get together soon and catch up. Thank you for taking the time to write to me and read my blog. It means so much.
January 19, 2016 at 1:04 am
Lovely, dear. And you know who got to see Curtis first!
January 19, 2016 at 5:23 am
Yes Virginia. You were my saving grace helping me through my labor pains. Thank God you were there to hold my hand and take such good care of me. It was hard to go through this experience without my husband, especially since we went to child birth classes together. I’m impressed that you took interest in my blog.
You sang beautifully at my wedding also Virginia. Thank you for being my Mom’s best friend all these years and for taking part in the most important times in my life.
Much love to you always,
January 20, 2016 at 3:45 am
You are such and inspiration. You touch everyone’s heart who meets you. I am so grateful to have you in my life and family. You , Ken and your family are amazing. A true love story. Thank you for sharing. Barbara
January 21, 2016 at 5:37 am
Awe. Barbara, I’m so happy you have found my blog.
Did you read any of the previous ones. I believe you and your parents are in one of the ones from a while back. I will find it and repost on Facebook.
Hope all is well. Thank you for the lovely comments. We love you too.
February 15, 2016 at 5:08 am
Teri, you exemplify the fearless woman warrior and always look for the good in life. I am delighted to know you and to be counted as a girlfriend. Happy Valentines Day💞
February 15, 2016 at 5:21 pm
I’m honored that you would take the time to read my blog Gail.
It’s people like you who brighten up my life and make each new day a special one.
Thank you sweet friend. I’m so happy our paths crossed and we make time to connect.